Stages of dating commitment

Before a man chooses whether or not to commit to you, you’ll need to move through a couple of key stages with him. Here, Christian Carter fills you in so you know what to expect…and tells you how to make the most of each stage so he’ll want to keep moving the relationship forward.

It’s natural for you to want to know that things are progressing in a relationship, but talking about it before a man is ready can often prevent the closeness you want.

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Instead, a man will normally go through certain stages first before he decides you’re “it.” Here’s what they are, and how to handle them so he’s comfortable to move forward: Stage #1: Courtship In the early stages of dating, you take on one of two roles: the Convincer or the Resistor.

It’s important for you to be the Resistor and not the Convincer.

That’s because the Convincer is the one who makes sure you spend time together and who pursues the Resistor.

If you are the one doing the convincing, you do not create the space to see if HE will step forward and pursue YOU.

One of the most common situations women ask me about is what I call “Predictable Male Withdrawal.” I’ll take a second to explain exactly what this is and why it’s important…

In the early stages of dating, a man is often attentive, affectionate, and willing to do anything to stay close to you. He rarely wants to talk about your feelings or the relationship. You worry about it, and wonder why suddenly you’re the only one who cares about the relationship.He talks about his life, his feelings and wants to know everything about you. Unfortunately, pointing this out to him only adds to the tension and distance you feel.You want to use this time to see if he’ll move things forward in a way that makes you comfortable.Your “resistance” will also inspire him to want to pursue you, rather than resist progress in your relationship.So take your foot off the accelerator and let a man initiate his interactions with you.Only then will you progress to…Stage #2: The Uncommitted Relationship This is that “in-between” stage.

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